Educate2Liberate

I don’t think I have been in a home where I haven’t seen household cleaners such as Lysol, Clorox, Pledge and Windex. Chemical cleaning supplies are an $18 billion industry (Bach, 80). Wish I had a piece out of that pie (not really and you will soon know why). The average US household shells out roughly $600 a year on 40 lbs of chemical cleaning supplies (Bach, 80).

I will take you on a short journey through the life of me during my first semester of college. I was taking a biology course which was required for my intended major in Obstetrics and Gynecology. Those of you who know me well are probably thinking, WHAT?!? Yes, there was a time in my life when I wanted to deliver babies (I still do) and I thought being an OBGYN was the only way to do it. Any who, my Biology instructor began to teach the class about endangered species. I was intrigued. I began doing a lot of research of my own and eventually I was learning about tap water, chemicals and this led me into “The Green Life”.

Most Americans go to their local grocery store and buy brand name cleaners. The popular cleaners I am sure you have seen thousands of advertisements for, whether on television, magazines, etc. Society doesn’t have a clue what is in these bottles that magically make any mess disappear. They think because it is on the shelf, they must be okay to use. Right? WRONG! Household cleaners are not as safe as we think.



The first reason why household cleaners are not as safe as we think is that companies are not required to disclose ingredients. Have you ever looked at the back of a bottle of cleaner that you use? They do not disclose the ingredients. Why would they? They don’t want you to know what you are buying. If you did, they wouldn’t be making billions off of you. Here are some pictures of labels from the back of commonly used cleaners. You don’t see any ingredients listed any where.







Ben Dunham, an associate legislative counsel at Earthjustice states, “The federal system to regulate toxic chemicals is just in shambles (Bielo).” People assume that because these products are on the shelf that they are safe, but they are not.

The second reason why household cleaners are not as safe as we think is that they are made with harmful chemicals. It’s no wonder why they don’t want you to know the ingredients. If you knew you were buying a bottle full of health problems, would you buy it? I think it is safe to say that everyone would say no. They are full of dangerous chemicals that we can’t even pronounce.


• denatured ethanol
• alkyl dimethyl benzyl ammonium chloride
• dimethyl benzyl ammonia chloride
• alkylphenol ethoxylates
• ethylene glycol ethers
• ethanolamines
• chloramines
• ethylene dibromide
• cyclophosphamide

Even if you did know ingredients, you wouldn’t know if they are harmful. Where do you go to look up chemicals and their harmful effects? "One of the problems that none of this is addressing is that there are more than 100,000 chemicals in commerce and maybe 900 evaluations of chemicals for cancer-risk," says chemist Monona Rossol, industrial hygienist for Arts, Crafts and Theater Safety, a nonprofit that advises on chemical safety for theaters and artists. "For the majority of chemicals, there just isn't any data (Bielo)." What’s even more disturbing is “if you’re cleaning with disinfectant, you’re spraying pesticides all over your home (Ryan & Lowry, 47).” Many cleaners release VOC’s (volatile organic compounds
), which can cause many health effects.

The third reason why household cleaners are not as safe as we think is that they can cause many health problems. Many VOC’s are carcinogens
and contribute to other serious health problems. VOC’s are released into the air of your home and remain there for you to breathe in. They settle on surfaces in your home for you to touch. “Studies show links between chemicals in common household cleaners and respiratory irritation, asthma, and allergies, red blood cell damage, reproductive system damage, and birth defects. Some solvents in cleaning products are also toxic to the nervous system (Household).” Many cleaners have ingredients called endocrine or hormone disrupters. Also, “Studies have shown that women who work inside the home have significantly higher cancer rates than those who don’t and repeated exposure to cleaning products is a contributing factor (Matheson, 47).” Did you know that “About ten percent of toxic exposures reported to the U.S. Poison Control Centers are related to cleaning products directly touching the skin or being ingested (Matheson, 32)?”

Everyone should request toxic chemical policy reform by joining the Million Baby Crawl
. You can also buy safe cleaning products from many companies such as Seventh Generation
, Method
, and Mrs. Meyers
. They are available almost everywhere and they disclose ALL of their ingredients. Check your local grocery store. You can also find amazing recipes online
to make your own cleaners here and type “household cleaner recipes” into the search box. Check out this website
and click “household cleaners” to ensure you are not buying harmful chemicals.

If you have any questions or comments, please ask! I have many resources and books on this. Trying to incorporate everything is extremely hard. Thanks and until next time… peace and love!

"Popular to contrary belief, what you don't know can hurt you (Ryan and Lowry, 10)."

Bach, David. Go Green, Live Rich. New York: Broadway Books, 2008.
Biello , David . "Earthjustice Wants Companies to List Chemicals in Household Cleaners". Scientific American. 02/25/2010 .
Matheson, Christie. Green Chic Saving The Earth in Style. Naperville: Sourcebooks, Inc., 2008.
Ryan, Eric and , Lowry, Adam. Squeaky Green . San Francisco: Chronicle Books, 2008.
"Household Cleaner Product Giant SC Johnson Will Disclose Chemical Ingredients". Earthjustice. 02/25/2010 .

It is way beyond late, but I promised myself one blog a day. I may make this a short blog. I though of so many things I wanted to write about today. To be honest, my brain is so fried right now I cannot think of one of them. I know once I lay my head on that fluffy pillow I will remember them all and some. That time between laying my head on that oasis to the time I actually drift off into sleep seems to take an eternity. I find my brain racing like it is running for its life. It is almost overwhelming. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever be able to let my brain rest. There are so many things I want to change in the world. Me against the world… in my dreams! I can try though right? So everyday I set out to do one thing and one thing only. Liberate the world through education. My plan of attack you ask? That’s what I think about non-stop when I should be falling asleep. I cannot help it, but everyday there are things that come to my attention that disturb me like no other. Maybe I should start writing all these things down as they come along. My “to-do” list if you will. It may take me a lifetime to hash out, but someday. I am scared to death about my daughter growing up in such a ruined society, a society where the true essence of life has been lost. Enjoying life now means to have the most money, to have the biggest house, to have the most toys, to have the coolest toys, to have the hippest clothes, to have the biggest breasts, to… the list goes on forever! You simply cannot enjoy life if you don’t have the best “stuff”. What in the hell happened? Now in order to learn you get sent to a school with a curriculum that was decided by certain people of what is important and what is not. Later in life you are supposed to go on by educating yourself in whatever you decide you want to “be” when you grow up. Typically, this is no longer something you like, but the best paying job. It has completely lost its passion. The majority of the working people that make big bucks will say they are unhappy with what they do. Money drives and it drives me nuts! Okay, so this supposed short blog is turning into a rant that will never end because I am beginning to pour out my thoughts in the order they run through my head, which is extremely unorganized. Off to the list and off to bed for me. I will go from this day forward with a small notebook and pen at all times so I can record and not forget everything that I want to educate about. Then I can organize them to make for a better read. Until tomorrow… peace & love!

I recently joined a group on Facebook called “If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over YOUR head!” It currently has just over 129,000 fans. Facebook has been deleting photos of breastfeeding mums and even deleting their accounts with no warning. Their reasoning is the photos are obscene and violate their terms of use. Now, I understand that Facebook is a privately owned company and that when you sign up, you agree to the terms of use. However, what I cannot understand is how Facebook allows this:....
http://www.facebook.com/verysexywomen#!/verysexywomen and http://www.facebook.com/pages/Sexy-women/214121300275#!/pages/Sexy-women/214121300275?v=photos
with photos ranging from this:
,


and



Yet, breastfeeding mums are having their photos of a natural process deleted. Facebook has even been going as far as to completely delete their pages with no warning. Photos like this:


and


are said to be obscene?!? The definition of obscene is as follows according to Dictionary.com:
ob⋅scene

 

1.....


offensive to morality or decency; indecent; depraved: obscene language. ....

2.....


causing uncontrolled sexual desire.....

3.....


abominable; disgusting; repulsive.....

The last time I checked, breastfeeding is not offensive to morality or decency. It does not cause uncontrolled sexual desire other than in people with severe psychological problems that shouldn’t be allowed on Facebook for “our” safety. And lastly, breastfeeding is anything but abominable, disgusting or repulsive. How is feeding your children the way nature intended any of the above? It’s not! Natural is defined many different ways, but the best definition I found for this use on Dictionary.com is: in conformity with the ordinary course of nature; not unusual or exceptional.....
Therefore, Facebook is discriminating against breastfeeding mothers and it MUST stop! I urge you to support “If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over YOUR head!” by joining their group and encouraging others to as well by clicking http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?topic=12067&uid=444758635156#!/pages/If-breastfeeding-offends-you-put-a-blanket-over-YOUR-head/444758635156?v=wall. You can also submit this pre-made letter to news stations across ....America...., to Oprah, to everyone who should listen! This letter was provided by http://www.facebook.com/pages/If-breastfeeding-offends-you-put-a-blanket-over-YOUR-head/444758635156

To whom it may concern,
I would like to let you know about discrimination that is taking place on the massive social networking site Facebook. There has been a lot of bad publicity in the past over Facebook deleting even the most modest pictures of babies breastfeeding, yet they still continue this practice. Despite breastfeeding being perfectly natural and despite the fact that it is illegal in most places to ask a nursing mother to stop or cover up, Facebook sends warnings and even closes accounts of mothers who post nursing pictures. Recently a Facebook group called "If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over YOUR head!" (link: http://www.facebook.com/pages/If-breastfeeding-offends-you-put-a-blanket-over-YOUR-head/444758635156?v=feed&story_fbid=312428379428#!/pages/If-breastfeeding-offends-you-put-a-blanket-over-YOUR-head/444758635156?ref=mf ) which boasts over 129,000 members and is rapidly increasing in popularity has had countless hundreds of pictures removed from members and from the group's own founder. Thousands of mothers are outraged, this needs to be stopped! We hope to continue to give Facebook bad publicity until they realize that breastfeeding is NOT obscene! Any help from your news network would be greatly appreciated.
Until tomorrow… peace & love!

I recently have started watching the television series “Friends”. I used to always watch it. It was and still is one of my all time favs. What is even more awesome is when I stumbled upon the episodes with childbirth and breastfeeding in them. Oh did this bring a smile to my face and tears to my eyes. We went from displaying childbirth “naturally with little to no scare” to “childbirth is the most horrific thing that will ever happen to you” in less than ten years! The episode when Rachel gave birth was originally aired in 2002. This episode shows Rachel completely calm through childbirth and working through the contractions. It may not be very realistic, but at least it isn’t scaring the wits out of women and men. Not only that, but they show drug free vaginal deliveries. They also show Rachel and Ross’s ex-wife breastfeeding their children in a few other episodes. Here is an awesome documentary that I found. It looks amazing and I am going to purchase it. It is only $19.95 if you purchase 5 or more. If you would like one, please let me know. We can order together. If not, the movie is $39.95. EEK! I would prefer to save some cash as I am sure many of us would.

If you decide you would like to purchase a video, you can message me on my Facebook fan page or email me. Thanks

Until tomorrow… peace & love!

Finally, my comment has been posted and I am able to share with you what I wrote to this woman in response to her ridiculousness. It’s not as complete as I would like it to be. I basically took every point she tried to make and explained why it’s not scary. It was super late at night, so again I apologize for any errors. Here is the link to the original post: http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-10-scary-childbirth-facts-thatll-alarm-you-more-than-your-biological-cl/

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What really drives me nuts is that both men and women have this idea that pregnancy and childbirth are this horrible and painful experience that just sucks. I don’t quite know where it lost its specialness. First of all - to all men and women who have not had children yet… (And to the ones who have, but thought it scary) The Top TEN Reasons Why Childbirth is NOT Scary:
1. It is true, you may poop, puke and shake when in labor. This is an absolute normal part of the process and honestly the last thing on your mind when in labor. You are concentrating on contractions, breathing and relaxing. If you actually researched and learned about the process, you would understand why it is happening and that it is normal - therefore NOT scary (but most women are not fully educated about childbirth - classes just are not what they should be)
2. Your vag will go back to its regular size on its own… no need to purchase anything to “exercise” your hoo-ha. Not only that, but if you truly wanted to do kegels, there is no reason to purchase anything - there is no equipment required. Also in an unrelated topic - doing kegels throughout pregnancy can help with childbirth
3. Episiotomies are typically NOT standard procedure anymore. Some docs recommend it still BUT, YOU have the right to choose what YOU want to do, remember? It is YOUR body… I would never let a doc cut me for three reasons - a) recovery from episiotomy stitches takes longer and is more painful b) less likely to get an infection c) Most women actually never tear…
4. Yes it is true, stretch marks do stay forever… but you really don’t care about them. Creating a human being is way too amazing and more important than worrying about some stretched skin. Having children is so awesome that you really just do not worry about the small stuff.
5. Mmmmm, yes the hospital bills. Well for starters, if women (and men) would do their research, they would know that OB/GYNs are expensive, longer hospital stays because you had an emergency c-section due to the fact that your OB/GYN talked you into inducing early (or you talked your OB into inducing because “you can’t take it anymore”) and the pain was so unbearable because you didn’t research how to work with your body during labor, so instead you used interventions such as an epidural which slows or even stops progression all to wind up having a “stressed” baby with all this crap you are putting into your body and completely doubting your natural ability to just push that darn baby out of your vag. Sure, the hospital bills will indeed add up. Know, have a home birth with an awesome midwife and doula with no interventions and awesome experience - much cheaper and priceless memories! not to mention you said formula - well if you fed your child the way nature intended and didn’t support all of these money making scammers (breast-feeding of course), then you wouldn’t spend any extra money. Diapers - yes they do cost a pretty penny, but there are always cloth diapers - you know, how they used to do way back in the day?? Before corporate companies tried to make a pretty penny on our tooshes. Not to mention, cloth diapers are nothing like they used to be. They are super easy to work with.
6. The after birth… first of all, it is nothing like the birth. You do not feel a thing really. I had my daughter all natural drug-free vaginal delivery and I assure you that it is nothing… and you don’t even think about it. You are too busy meeting your new little creation that you have known for the past nine and a half months, but was never properly introduced until now. The anticipation for those moments when you first hold him/her are priceless.
7. Yes, you do make lots of sacrifices while pregnant, but then again you will for the rest of your life. What’s a little nine months? And honestly, time flies so fast that next thing you know, your little one is walking and talking and who would have known… you don’t even care to drink or do anything that you used to. Who would have thought children be so important in your life that you don’t want to abuse drugs or alcohol?!?
8. Ah yes, the maternity clothes. For the next nine months you are going to look like grandma… the hottest grandma around. Maternity clothes are not what they used to be. Just like everything else has evolved - YES maternity clothes have evolved to over time. Shocking - I know!
9. Post partum depression is a major bummer - I agree, but there are many natural alternatives to which women can cure this “major bummer”. Ah, knowledge - amazing what it can do for your life…

10. Yes, people will ask when you are due, you get all giddy over it and share. You talk to the person, they share their story, their advice, their opinions and you feel like you have learned, observed and took it all in. You take what you care to remember and forget the stuff you don't. Hmmm, I am not sure what kind of mommy to be wouldn't want to familiarize themselves with an uncertain experience they will soon encounter.....

So in conclusion, the answer is No: pregnancy and childbirth are NOT scary, only when you don't educate yourself. So if and when you do decide to have children, educate yourself, get opinions, listen to stories. The best way to be successful is to consume all the wisdom you can! :) Prepare yourself in the most important way possible. Prepare for childbirth! Until tonight... peace & love!

“You know, we don’t let her cry herself to sleep. We always put her to sleep when she is tired.” The hubs said this to a friend today. The friend replied, “Oh, really?”

I was so proud of the hubs. It took me a long time to get him on board with my style of parenting. At first, he had always thought that babies are to put themselves to sleep. I remember when she was only a few weeks old he asked, “Can’t you just let her cry and put herself to sleep?” At first I said no for a couple reasons. I knew it was way too young to do CIO, but also it just felt so wrong. I said I would wait until she was a little older. A little older came and went. It just never felt right to let her cry. To me, crying is her only form of communication. I couldn’t dismiss her needs. I also couldn’t force her to do something she was not ready to do on her own. You don’t stand up a newborn and let them go, only to let them fall because they “need to learn to stand”. No, you don’t. You wait until they are able to do it on their own. You wait until they are mentally, emotionally and physically able to do it on their own. Pushing her to “learn” to sleep on her own just felt wrong on so many different levels.

I had many battles with the hubs on this one. He said I was ruining her. He said that she would always need us to go to sleep. He damn near despised me because of the fact that I refused to let her CIO. I put my foot down. I know relationships are about compromises, but there was no way I would budge on this one. There are actually a number of things I will not budge on (full term breastfeeding, child led weaning, no CIO, no circumcision, home schooling, etc) and he gets angry about it. I explain to him the reasons I refuse (yes, NO compromises) and the research behind it all. I explain to him how it will negatively affect her future and how it will positively affect her future. I think at that point he is more accepting of my parenting style. Slowly, but surely he is hopping on board. Might I add that he is a baby-wearing daddy! He has loved to wear our daughter since she was a newborn… awe – I am almost crying because he makes me so proud.

Until today, I have never heard the hubs proudly share that we do not CIO. It was a heart-melting moment and made me smile inside and out. Not only did he share this with a friend, but it was a male friend! When the friend was in shock that we do not CIO, the hubs repeated it with a smile on his face. He was proud to not CIO. I almost couldn’t believe my ears. Finally success and the success felt so good.

I know he disagrees with a lot of things that I am adamant about, but I feel that twenty years down the road he will appreciate the fact that I was so stern about my decisions. I am almost certain that he will thank me. If you truly feel adamant about something that will affect your child, stand strong! Don’t be a pushover. I may be a little on the extreme side, but my child’s future is more important than a little hump in my relationship with dear dad.

“Good instincts tell you what to do long before your head has figured it out” -Michael Burke

Until tomorrow… peace & love!

I like to think of myself as a super duper crunchy mama… with tons of caramel on top. No really though. I decided that I wanted to major in Environmental Sciences, Policy and Management while I was taking a few general education courses. I was taking a Biology course because it was required for my “dream career” as an OB/GYN. Those of you who know me are probably laughing at the irony in this. This was long before I had my daughter.

So any who, back on the ranch, my Biology instructor really got me into endangered species and how what we are doing to the environment is affecting them. I then started doing research on my own time and began to learn about our affects on the environment. I became extremely interested in environmental sciences and changed my major. This was the beginning of my extra crispy crunch I now have.

I am super green… probably neon highlighter green. Not only do I care about the environment, but I also care about my family’s health. I am green in probably every aspect there is. Now, you don’t see me outside when it’s ten below, riding my bicycle to make toast. I am definitely not an extremist like Ed. Compared to most, you would probably think I am an extremist. I buy things with no toxic chemicals or finishes. I buy milk based paints with no VOCs (Volatile Organic Compounds). I buy organic and locally grown food. I prefer to always buy organic over local. I would rather not ingest the chemicals from fertilizers and pesticides and I most certainly do not want my daughter eating that crap either.

I bought all of her clothes and toys from garage sales for two reasons. For one, all of the items would have already off-gassed and two, I am re-using which also is good for the environment. By the way, off-gassing is the release of chemicals into the air. For example, that horrible smell when you paint is chemicals being released into the air. That “new car” smell most love so much is also off-gassing.

I have always wanted my very own garden, but we rent a townhouse. I have a yard the size of your dining room table. Sad, I know, but soon I will have my own place. I hope to have an organic farm and sell at Farmer’s Markets. I also dream of composting. One day I will have my very own compost. That would truly bring a smile to my face.

I recycle everything. Literally! Even if it is the tiniest piece of scratch paper, I still recycle it. I find myself spending countless hours while cleaning and sorting through all of my papers and plastics, making sure that I recycle everything that can be. So when I spend so much time sorting this (there is no reason that you shouldn’t spend the time to sort) all to find that the hubs stuck my recycling bag in the garbage, of course I am going to be a little heated about it. It is one of my biggest pet peeves. Next to our garbage in the kitchen is another bin for recycling. RIGHT NEXT TO THE GARBAGE! I always am digging through the garbage and taking out the recyclables and putting them in their “proper” bin. It drives me crazy that people don’t recycle, even though the bin is right there. I was taught in elementary school (almost twenty years ago) that you are supposed to recycle. Why is it so hard for people to comprehend.

When in college, they spent a heavy penny on these neat sort systems. They are all over the campus and have a spot for paper, plastic/glass and waste. Daily I would see people sticking their recycling in the waste bin, even though the recycle bin was RIGHT next to the waste. GRRRRRR!!! What is wrong with people? I can’t possibly blame it on laziness. There is just no way. The bins are sitting right next to each other!

All of my friends and family think I am “over the top”. I beg to differ. There is no way I am. It’s not hard, nor do I spend any more energy than they do throwing their recyclables away in the trash. I recycle so much, that I would rather have recycling come every week like the trash and have the trash come every other week like the recycling.

So next time you go to throw away that one piece of paper or that soda can… RECYCLE! Think if everyone in the world threw away just one paper a day…. That shit adds up!

Sing it with me “Recycle, recycle, recycle!”

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Until tomorrow… peace & love!

Stupid thumbnails will not work when I post a link on Facebook. So this is a test. If anyone knows how to fix this problem, any help would be greatly appreciated! :)

I feel like I am a minority in my society. When I first decided I wanted children, I knew there would be sacrifices. I of course knew that I would have to sacrifice my body for nine and a half months and that my life would forever change. I was accepting of this. I wanted children. Until I was actually pregnant, I didn’t quite fathom all of the sacrifices that would need to be made. I couldn’t drink alcohol (I of course knew this before pregnancy). I had to eat healthy, small meals all the time. I had to drink water like it was going out of style. I had to skip the caffeine. I had to deal with morning sickness. I had to deal with the crazy spurts of energy my daughter had when it was my night time. I forced my prenatal vitamins down my throat even though I damn near gagged them up and had to swallow them a few times before they would go down and stay down. I sacrificed my body. I sacrificed its appearance. I sacrificed my muscles (carrying 35 extra pounds is not easy). I worked every day up until I had her. I did this all for her. I did it for her well being. I did it for her future. I did it for her potential. She was the most important thing to me, long before she took her first breath of air.

When I first was pregnant I knew one very important thing. I did NOT want a c-section. Over my dead body was some freak cutting my body open. Childbirth to me was a natural process and I was going to do EVERYTHING I could to make sure of it. I researched my brain to the point of a short circuit. I think most of my views on childbirth stemmed from my wonderful and loving mother. She had my brothers and I all natural and drug free. I am not going to get into my birth story here. I am saving that for another blog. I just don’t understand how women and men can not prepare in every way possible for such a monumental and life changing event. This not only affects your health, but it affects your child’s health as well. When I became pregnant, I made it my number one priority to ensure my offspring’s life was the best it could possibly be. This meant the best circumstances both prenatally and during the labor and delivery. It also meant the best circumstances after as well, but that too will be another blog.

I just don’t understand the selfishness of some women. How can someone be so selfish to go the whole pregnancy without preparing one bit? Well, I guess going to a childbirth class where they tell you about interventions and c-sections counts for most people. All those classes teach is the scientific process and interventions. They don’t encourage women. They don’t teach women that childbirth is a natural and normal process, not a procedure. Your typical childbirth class tends to leave out the most important parts about childbirth. Most women hear the horror stories of their friends and family of how horrible the pain is. Most women “learn” through the others around them. They take their advice. They use this knowledge solely and don’t research further.

When I became pregnant, there was no way that just a measly childbirth class would suffice. I read books. I researched online. I talked to many other mommies-to-be on BabyCenter.com. I did take a childbirth course as well. I talked to my friends who had children. I talked to my mother. I took everyone’s advice in, but mentally sorted it to what I found useful and what I thought could be put on the back burner. My mother (unlike most I am sure) encouraged me to do an all natural, un-medicated birth. It didn’t really take much for her to convince me. I already had my heart and soul set on it. All of my friends thought I was crazy. They said that they too wanted an un-medicated, vaginal delivery, but once you go into labor you just won’t be able to handle it. “You’ll give in,” they said discouragingly. I told them no way. I had no idea what labor felt like, but I knew that I would do everything I could to prepare myself and make my odds in favor.

Why can’t other women do the same? Why can’t they stand up for themselves? Why can’t they stand up for their child that will soon be in this delusional world? Why do women discourage our own kind? Why do we belittle our own? I try to stick positive thoughts in every pregnant woman’s mind about childbirth. How did childbirth get such a bad wrap anyway? I don’t know about you, but bringing a child into the world beats ANY and ALL of the most positive experiences I have had in my whole life put together.

I also do not understand how women can be selfish enough to try to induce their own labor, electively induce when not medically necessary, and electively choose a c-section. I am currently a member on a website called BabyCenter.com. When members in my birth club were near the end, many electively induced, chose to have their c-section early or even tried inducing labor themselves with home remedies. Many women complained and said they didn’t want to be pregnant anymore. You are trying to have a fucking child (pardon my French) and raise this child for the rest of your life and you are worried about being pregnant for a few more days?!? Now I know there are many studies on how you want to let natural labor happen on its own for many reasons, most importantly for the health and well being of the child, but who on Earth is so self-absorbed that they need to take their child out of the most important place so they don’t have to “deal” with the pregnancy anymore?!? These people shouldn’t be allowed to have children! This child is going to be relying on YOU for the rest of your life and you can’t even handle the end of the pregnancy?

There are so many more things I would like to bitch about, but this is already so very long. I just felt these were the most important things to write about now. There are many more topics of egotistical “BS” that I would love to share with you all, but I will save that for another day. I just feel like I am the only one who sacrifices EVERYTHING for my daughter. Until tomorrow… peace & love!

I find it heart wrenching that the wonderful experience of pregnancy, labor and delivery is misrepresented in the media. The mother-to-be is tricked to being scared, to doubt her own body and its capabilities. The media rarely shows women who have drug free, natural, vaginal deliveries. I recall watching TLC’s “A Baby Story” when I was pregnant with my daughter. I recorded them everyday and of all the episodes but one were situations where the mother is in horrible pain lying in bed. She gets the epidural to help with the pain. She lies there, unable to move. The labor does not progress. They start pitocin. You get the picture. It almost always ends in a situation where the scared mother is whisked off into the operating room to do an emergency cesarean section because the baby’s vitals “drop” and the baby is stressed. It’s no wonder why ....America....’s cesarean section rate is over 30%. Almost a third of all births in the ....US.... end in c-sections! What is wrong with this picture? I am sick of our citizens being misinformed or not informed at all.

So where this all stems from is a couple of weeks ago, the hubs was watching the show “Kendra” on E! and it was the episode when Kendra is told by her OB/GYN that she needed to be induced early because her son was “big”. This was the first thing that ticked me off. So they head into the hospital and the procedure begins. Of course she gets the epidural because of the pain and is stuck in bed. Typical intervention story, she doesn’t progress at all. So her OB comes in 24 hours later and says something along the lines that she isn’t progressing at all (go figure) and that the baby’s vitals are FINE, BUT we should go ahead and do a cesarean section any way. WTF?!? So she goes along with it.

Why on Earth is someone who has access to all of the wonderful resources to help with natural childbirth end up in such a typical situation? She could have had a midwife, a doula, access to all books and even Hypnobirthing, yet she chooses a measly ..OB.. and the path that most uninformed Americans are taking.

The sad thing is that it probably isn’t her fault. Today, more and more Americans are following the social “norm” of using obstetricians, hospitals and interventions out of fear. The fears are any where from the health of the newborn, the health of the mother, pain, and the “just in cases” or “what ifs”.

It is such an honor to say that ....America.... has the technology that is able to prevent and save newborns and mothers that are in need of such technologies, but it has gotten out of control. Women now fear everything about pregnancy, labor and delivery. Instead of having constant emotional, physical and psychological support, women are left alone in their hospital room to deal with labor. Often they have no clue what is going on, what is ahead or what to do. They become overwhelmed with fear and begin to have pain. The partner, if there is one, is often scared. The partner begins to have a rollercoaster of emotions. They are not sure how they can help. The woman decides to have interventions to help deal with the pain and relax her and it all crumbles from there.

How did we get to this point and how do we go back? You would think that because we have all of these wonderful medical technologies, more would attempt natural, drug free childbirths knowing that if there truly were a medical emergency that they have the resources available. This opens a whole other can of worms that I will get into in another blog. Doctors take advantage of their patients. They scare their patients, make the situation seem worse and take advantage of their patients’ ignorance and lack of education.

It is going to take years before we can make significant changes for there to be social change and the norm of interventions disappear. This is only one of the many reasons I decided I wanted to complete my doula certification and eventually would like to become a childbirth educator. Even this will not be enough. One person cannot change the world. I lay in bed every night trying to think of how to change it. How can I do it? Where do I start? It would take years before we would start seeing improvements. I am going to become a doula and offer my services on a sliding fee scale. I am going to volunteer my services to women who cannot afford a doula. I am going to volunteer my services to single mothers and to teenage mothers. I am going to offer free childbirth classes to those who cannot afford it. It is to the point where this change is so important to me that I feel like volunteering my time to everyone. The money is really not important to me. I feel it is every woman’s right to a drug free, natural, but most of all an INFORMED childbirth.

I just had a really good idea. I have to go for now. Until tomorrow… peace & love!

What am I going to do with you America and all of the ignorant people in it? I was in Target yesterday and HAD to leave. I was so disgusted and was seriously enraged. I was in the infant section looking for pajamas for my daughter and heard the sweet, little innocent cry of a newborn. All you parents out there I am sure can recall the newborn cry. This was no mistake that it was in fact a newborn. It wasn’t just a whimper either. This was a full blown cry, a cry for some sort of need. I am not sure what this brand new bundle of joy NEEDED, but it was apparent that s/he desperately needed attention by its mother. At first I thought to myself that the mother was just in the middle of something, but would soon care to the child. The mother ignored its cries and said, “Oh, you’re okay.” As if the newborn was just piss-whining for nothing. At this point I was a little perturbed. After about ten minutes I nonchalantly peek around the corner to see what is going on and the mother was completely ignoring her child’s cries and continuing shopping as if nothing were wrong. At this point, I had to leave. I was so furious. I desperately wanted to say something to this woman, but I feared that if I did I might open a can of “whoop ass” on the lady and end up in jail. At that point I decided it was just better to leave because my emotions were about to take over. My stomach turned as I ran out of Target. I could not believe my eyes or ears. How can you LET your newborn child sit in its car seat, alone and upset? And we wonder why America has the highest crime rate, highest rates for psychological disorders and why so many children and adults have to deal with anxiety and depression. Wouldn’t you be depressed if you were helpless and new to the whole life thing if you were left alone to cry and not have your needs met? ARGH! When are Americans going to realize that a baby's SOLE way of communication is through crying? When are Americans going to realize that babies cry FOR reasons? When are American's going to learn that when your baby cries and s/he needs to be held that YES that is a need, not a want? When are Americans going to realize that babies, do not have wants? They are incapable of understanding wants. They only need. They need to be fed, changed, comforted, bathed, soothed, put to sleep, etc. They are brand new to this new life of theirs and are desperately learning how to live in this new cold and lonely place so far from their mother's womb. It saddens me that children are left to cry. Actually, this was not meant to be about CIO (Cry-It-Out method) at all. It saddens me that brand new lives are left alone to cry and probably only want to be held by the one person they have ever known, but were taken from the most warm and comforting place... their mother's womb.